Coping with Euthanasia
The word euthanasia is derived from the Greek, literally meaning, “good death”. It is a matter of ethical and practical necessity and one of the most difficult decisions a pet owner will ever have to make. Although it is the right thing to do and is the most humane way to end the life of your pet, it can be a psychological nightmare of confusion, guilt and final responsibility for the loving pet owner. When the time has come to make that decision, you may seek the advice of close friends, family members or your veterinarian, but ultimately, that very personal decision is yours to make.
Before: Anticipatory Grief
This is described as “the sadness before the loss”. Many of us feel a deep sense of loss while our pet is still with us. The grieving process can actually begin as early as the moment we learn that our pet is terminally ill or once we face the difficult decision to euthanize. We anticipate the ending of our pet’s life and are reminded that the dreaded goodbye is nearing. This begins the series of losses that we can feel. The effect anticipatory grief can have on us varies greatly. Some may feel sadness, anger, fear, anxiety
There are some things that can help you in coping with anticipatory grief:
- Reach out and accept help from others. Find those who understand the special relationship that you shared with your pet. When friends and family ask, “How can I help?” tell them what you need or you may seek the help of a professional Pet Loss and Bereavement Counselor.
- Make extra time for your pet. Take the time to show and tell your pet how much you love them. I know you already do this and your pet already knows, but do it more often. Give them some of their favorite treats or perhaps something you would not normally give them as a treat. If they are able, take them on extra walks, take them for a ride in the car or do another activity that they really enjoy. Make each day count.
- Be kind to yourself. Take a moment to rest, eat well and try to exercise. Remember, you and your pet will have good and bad days. Please be sure to give yourself permission to feel what you are feeling.
- Try to redirect your grief into something meaningful such as preparing a memorial or start a scrapbook. This is a way to honor your pet and a way you can have some control in an otherwise uncontrollable situation.
During: Choosing to Be Present or Not Present During Euthanasia
Sometimes observing their pet’s final moments may be too overwhelming for a pet owner. Maybe you are more comfortable saying goodbye to your pet in a separate room prior to the procedure. If this is the decision you prefer, make it known. You have made a very painful and important decision and there should be no shame. Just know that
As terrible and difficult as it is for a pet owner, some may choose to be present at their pet’s final moments. This moment is so intensely personal and emotional that it often becomes overwhelming. Your loving and caring eyes are the last
With either decision, you will experience great sadness. It is
Your heart feels like it will never heal. You may become overwhelmed with intense sadness which may be followed by anger and/or guilt. These are
Who Should be Present During Your Pet’s Final Moments
Some parents question whether or not a child should be present during the euthanasia procedure. It is a personal decision for the parent and one that should be given a great deal of thought. This would depend on the age of the child and the relationship he/she had with the family pet. It may be too overwhelming for some children. You may need to check with your veterinarian to see if there are any restrictions or if this is permitted in their practice.
Some pet owners bring their other companion pets with them so they can smell and see the other pet in their final moments. This is thought to be beneficial to the remaining pet, so they can witness the other pet’s last moments. The death of a pet is felt by all in the home, including surviving pets. They grieve as well. You may need to check with your veterinarian to see if there are any restrictions or if this is permitted in their practice.
After: How do I Cope with These Feelings of Grief?
The decision to euthanize can be devastating and very traumatic. Even when it is abundantly clear or medically necessary to euthanize our pets the decision to euthanize can leave us angry, regretful and filled with guilt. Life or death decisions, even when suffering is evident, are not easily made, nor should they be.
You have made that decision and euthanasia has taken place. Our intellect and our ability to reason
When we adopt a pet, we become their stewards, taking exceptional care of them and making the best decisions possible throughout their lives and in death. They thank you for all you have done for them through their love. They would not want you to be consumed with sadness or blame yourself for any actions taken. You did the very best you could.
Honor your pet by continuing on with your life with memories of them remaining in your heart, always and forever.
Here are some coping skills to help you with your grief:
- Take care of yourself. Grief affects you in many ways, emotionally, psychologically, physically and behaviorally. Eat, sleep and drink water to keep your body healthy.
- Surround yourself with supportive people, those who understand the importance of the relationship you had with your pet.
- Honor your pet’s life with a memorial, such as a funeral, placing a garden stone or planting a tree in their honor.
- Write a letter to your pet. Yes, write to them and tell them exactly how you are feeling. Writing your thoughts and feelings on paper or in a journal will help with your healing process.
- Talk about your loss and tell your story to those who will listen and understand. Talking about your loss over and over is one way your mind copes with trauma.
- Allow yourself to grieve. Don’t ever be ashamed to cry. Remember this, “Crying is a way your eyes speak when your mouth can’t explain how broken your heart is”.
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